The Guest List

How to narrow down a guest list that is way too many people

So many brides and grooms struggle with who to invite to their wedding. Friends and family try to console you by saying, “It’s your wedding, invite who you want.” However, you know it’s not that simple. Someone is bound to be offended and, often times, you have to please your parents and in-laws with their must-have guests. So if you want to have a small wedding, how do you keep the guest list realistic? Here are some questions to ask yourself before you slap a stamp on those invites.


Have you ever socialized outside of work? Do you feel more like friends than co-workers? Would you even keep in touch if you didn’t work together?


Do you get together on a regular basis? Are they friends to both of you? Have you even spoken in the last 6 months?


(this can be a delicate matter, so tread lightly) First, would not inviting them to your wedding cause a family feud that would rival the Capulets and Montagues? Do you get together for holidays? Do you keep in touch regularly? Are they supportive of your marriage and will they play an active role in it?

Also, keep in mind that just because they invited you to their wedding, does not mean that you have to invite them to yours, especially if you are going for a more intimate affair. This can also be true when it comes to picking bridesmaids and groomsmen.

If you still would like the smaller wedding but don’t want to offend anyone, consider having a small ceremony and large reception. This can off-set any hard feelings. Remember it is ultimately your wedding and your choice on who to invite, don’t let anyone tell you otherwise.

Happy Planning!